Temper tantrums, clothing meltdowns, and demanding gifts. Sound like a bratty child? Nope, it's the profile of a modern man, according to the results of a new British study reported in The Daily Mail on Wednesday.
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Research conducted by the money-saving site Quidco.com found that 20 percent of women consider their significant other a full-fledged diva, in need of constant reassurance and affection and hogging the bathroom to primp. Their poor female partners report spending almost $169 on gifts, extravagant dates, and luxe holidays for their men, more than a third rack up over $2,000 in debt trying to keep their partners happy, and 30 percent worry they'll crack under the pressure. Unsurprisingly, 80 percent of these couples argue over these issues with more than half splitting up because of them. So what are the signs a man is high maintenance?
Throwing a fit when things don't go his way.
- Demanding an immediate reply to his text message or email.
- Needing to be told ‘I love you’ several times a day.
- Showing up to places fashionably late.
- Monopolizing the bathroom.
- Primping for long periods of time.
- Refusing to wear clothes that aren't designer brands.
- Wanting his partner to pick up his phone calls within a certain number of rings.
- Worrying about how he looks.
- Refusing to do activities such as camping.
- Shunning public transportation.
- Styling his hair before leaving the house.
- Needing a certain amount of kisses (that includes on the end of a text message or email).
- Not wanting to walk anywhere.
- Insisting upon living in a spotless home.
- Constantly looking at himself in the mirror.
- Only eating at fancy restaurants.
- Avoiding activities that make him dirty.
- Staying in 4 or 5 star hotels.
- Not liking to sweat.
- Buying only bottled water.
- Changing his outfit several times a day.
- Asking for a present least once a week.
- Drinking only fine wine.
What's going on with guys? "There could be a few reasons why men are suddenly becoming demanding," says Bethany Marshall, Ph.D., a Beverly Hills, CA based psychotherapist. "With women dominating the workforce, what it means to be a man in a relationship has changed. Gender roles aren't as strict anymore so men may be giving themselves permission to explore characteristics traditionally labeled as feminine. In my twenty-year private practice, I've seen a surge in men dragging their partners to therapy, not the other way around."
It's also possible that guys have always been this high maintenance but those traits were socialized out of them through pop culture promoting alpha archetypes.
Whatever the reason, bring on the man-tervention!